please help. i know there is a way but forgot where to do that setting.

thanks

AOL Email in Outlook Express - WorldStart Computer Tips and Computer Help

As for deleting the emails from your inbox when you delete them off your phone - I don't know if that's possible, but maybe there is a setting in your AOL email account that allows you to have the emails archived or trashed once you get them through IMAP

i know there is a setting smehwere where it ask if you want to delete them off the server as well?
forgot where!